Is it normal to experience pain on the first night?
Most women complain of pain on the first night. Some get worried on seeing a little blood on the bed. "This is because the hymen may have broken for the first time. The pain is minimal and the blood is very little. You can also experience pain because of less natural lubrication. The pain should subside after half an hour.
You know of those that definitely will get you pregnant and they are best avoided, at least now. "However, while a sexual position may influence the probability of semen flowing out of the vagina very quickly, it cannot be a guarantee for avoiding . Any position has at least 20 per cent chances of getting you pregnant.
Even women ejaculate when they are turned on. This happens because the vagina has to be lubricated enough when he enters you to avoid discomfort because of dryness. Some people do not produce the same amount of lubrication. If you feel too dry, you can use a lubricant.
Puberty & The Reproductive System
- It is the right and the choice of any individual to determine her or her own gender identity and gender role.
Teaching Message #1:
Sexuality is how people experience and express themselves as sexual beings. Learning about sexuality involves learning about social, emotional, and behavioral changes that occur throughout life.
Human sexuality is how people experience and express themselves as sexual beings. Sexuality refers to a whole set of issues. It is not only about biology and science, but also about social, emotional, and behavioral experiences that occur throughout life. Learning about sex involves learning about ALL of these things.
Teaching Message #2:
Puberty is a period of physical, emotional, and behavioral changes that occur when a person matures from being a child to being an adult. Everyone matures at a different rate.
What is puberty?
Puberty is a stage in adolescence during which our body changes physically and mentally from being that of a child to that of an adult. Our reproductive organs begin to work as those of an adult. We start to look, think, and feel in new and different ways.
The years of adolescence and puberty are a time of various gradual changes. It takes many years to complete the process. A child is not going to wake up one morning and suddenly discover that he/she has become an adult overnight. Everyone goes through these changes in his/her life; some experience the changes earlier in life, others later.
Some of the physical, emotional, and behavior changes children experience throughout puberty include:
· Physical: Growth spurt, pubic hair growth, underarm hair growth, voice deepens; Girls: breasts develop, hips widen, mentruation begins; Boys: testicles and penis enlarge, facial hair growth, voice deepens, body hair increases, shoulders broaden, muscles develop.
· Emotional: Relationship with parents may become more challenging; relationships with peers change as we try to figure out who our real friends are and whom we want to associate with; romantic relationships begin to develop; peer pressure; approval from others.
· Behavioral: Ability to think and learn about new topics; ability to debate about issues in a more sophisticated way; trying to form an identity and express it; dating; hanging out in peer groups including the opposite sex; more responsibilities; driving; sense of responsibilities for one’s own actions and how they affect others. Scientists think that the teenage brain is immature and the ability to make sound judgment is not fully developed. Consequently, the teenagers are at a risk of behavior impulsively and take on risk behaviors. It is also thought that the brain of teenage girls matures a number of years earlier than that of teenage boys. The teenage boy brain matures in the early 20’s.
Although most people tend to hit puberty around the ages of 11-14, many people have it earlier or later. Girls tend to go through puberty a little earlier (8-13 years old) than boys (10-14 years old). But even among girls, some develop sooner, and some later. The same holds for boys. What is important to keep in mind is that everyone grows at different rates, and that eventually, everyone will become an adult physically.
As it is seen from this list, all sorts of changes happen in our teenage years, not only with our body, but also with the way our mind works, and the way we interact with other people. It is important to remember that puberty and sexuality are not just physical; they are related to other parts of who we are as well. It is a period of excitement yet also a period of problems or struggles. How we deal with it is extremely important in what we will become as adults.
Teaching Message #3:
Hormones are directly or indirectly responsible for the changes that occur during puberty. The main hormones involved are estrogens in women and testosterone in men.
Hormones are chemicals in our body that travel in the blood. Different parts of the body can communicate with one another by releasing hormones into the blood, telling other parts of the body to do something in particular. There are different types of hormones regulating different organs. For instance, we release stress hormones when we are scared. For the reproductive system, the hormones are often referred to as the sex hormones.
Puberty starts when the brain sends hormones to the ovaries or the testicles. These hormones tell the testicles to begin making testosterone, the male hormone, and the ovaries to make the female hormones, called estrogens. These sex hormones send messages to certain parts of your body to tell them to grow and change during puberty. Hormones also indirectly affect the way we feel and thus how we behave; however, how this happens it is not well understood.
Teaching Message #4:
The female reproductive system includes ovaries, fallopian tube, uterus, and vagina. The male reproductive system includes testes, prostate gland, and penis. Females produce ova in the ovaries, and males produce sperm in the testes.
Female reproductive system:
Females have two ovaries, one on each side. The ovaries are where egg cells (ovum, ova) are made and stored. Females are born with all the ova they have during their lifetime, mostly. In other words, no or very few new ova are produced after birth. This is very different from sperm production. The eggs in the ovaries are mostly immature. It takes specific hormones to cause them to mature. In general, one egg matures each month and, if not fertilized, is discharged from the body during the menstrual period.
Male reproductive system:
One of the major physiological changes with puberty in males is their capacity to produce sperm, i.e., the ability to impregnate a woman.
The two testes or testicles sit in a pouch of skin, called the scrotum, on the outside of the male’s body, and are the organs that produce sperm cells.
How many sperm do you think a man produces in one day?
The testicles produce about 200 million sperm in one day!
As sperm cells travel down to the penis, a milky fluid is added by the prostate gland to provide nutrition and motility for the sperm. Together, this fluid is called semen. The semen then travels through a tube in the penis. The penis is usually soft, but can become firm when there is increased blood flow to the organ, such as in response to sexual excitement. When the semen is released from the body, this is called ejaculation.
Teaching Message #6:
It is the right and the choice of any individual to determine her or her own gender identity and gender role.
So far, we have discussed how biology defines male vs. female. However, how we feel and how we behave as males or females go beyond the sexual anatomy. It involves emotional, social, and behavioral aspects. Gender identity is how we identify ourselves as male or female. Gender role is how we behave as male or female. It is important to recognize that it is the right and the choice of any individual to decide her/his own identity and role.
Gender identity: Biology is the biggest factor that defines gender identity. However, there are people who feel female in spite of having a male anatomy and those who feel male in spite of having a female anatomy. Why this is so is not well understood at this time. There is also an issue of sexual orientation as to whether a person feels straight or gay. Again, we do not yet understand why. There are suggestions that biology may play an important part in addition to social and environmental factors. Research is being done to shed more light on these issues. It is important that we keep an open mind and are not judgmental about its being right or wrong.
Gender role: How do you define your role in society as a male or as a female?
Aggressive vs. docile
Leader vs. follower
Wage earning vs. taking care of home
Role of father vs. mother
Job selection and restriction
Many of the roles and behaviors assigned to females and males in the old days no longer hold today.